Moving on! I am now back at NI! studying hard so I can finish this last semester of school and graduate this May! YAY! I'm also desperately trying not to think about what I'm going to do after I graduate because I have a nasty feeling it will involve the words "minimum wage" and "would you like fries with that?". Ugh! It's not beneath me, but I'd really like to fancy it's behind me.
Anyway, this month is February which means Singles Awareness Day is coming up. The only thing I actually like about this day is the discounted chocolate that you can get afterwards. That and it usually means that Ash Wednesday is right around the corner and Ash Wednesday is of course preceded by Fat Tuesday! Whee!!! This means paczki's are for sale at Wal*Mart. Granted, you can't really get a decent one unless you're in Hamtramck, but since I'm very far away from there, I'll settle for the cheap knock-off's. Either that or I'll stuff myself full of a snickers or turtle frap. It's all good!
I finished off my playlist for last year finally and I have already started on this year's. I have three or four songs on it right now and am patiently waiting to see what songs February will lend itself to. Of course Josh Groban's February Song is an obvious pick, but since my February and his aren't exactly the same, I may opt for something else.
Okay, so last night a discussion came up about the whole single thing... again... and the general consensus is (of course) that it's okay if you're single, you can still serve God, be happy, yadda-yadda-yadda. The point was made that all those happily married women can't help but point out that they too thought they were going to be the first Baptist Nun and of course God brought along the man they married. Of course, that story is always accompanied by the words, "don't worry, you're young. I'm sure God has someone very special for you too!"
Do you have any idea how incredibly aggravating this is? Do you have any concept how badly I want to scream when I hear that? I have been single my entire life. No boyfriends, one guy interested and that ended before it began. Telling me that some wonderful man is out there is one of the most infuriating things you can tell me. Yes, I know I am young. I know I am not ugly. I know I have plenty of time. Quit pressuring me about how long I have please!
I do not need reassurance that I may or may not get married. I do not need encouragement about being single. I do not need to hear that God has someone special. I know this true by the sheer volume of its repetition every time someone asks if I'm dating anyone. Regardless of the assumption that Mr. Right is just waiting around somewhere, none of this affects me now. Whether or not God does have some guy waiting for me or if I'll end up as single as the day is long, all of those encouraging words just serve to aggravate me endlessly. It also happens to aggravate most of the single girls I know as well, so please stop telling us every time we say the words "boy, guy, single, or husband!
Telling me someone is out there (in a church full of married people) is unhelpful. Introducing me to your very single, handsome, gentlemanly son, grandson, nephew, brother, brother-in-law, cousin, etc. is helpful. Please, introduce me to your very charming, fun loving male relations! PLEASE!
The point: If my future husband is wandering around out there somewhere, that's great. When God wants us to meet, we will meet. Maybe you will be the one to introduce us. That's fine! Please do! I'm great with that! I have no objections to well thought out blind dates, introductions to single guys (that are not creepers), or whatever. I'm not saying do not set me up. I'm saying quit giving me migraines from repeating: "There's somebody out there for you, you're still young!" over and over and over and over again.
If you want to say something helpful, remind me God has a plan and He opens doors and guides and directs when doors need opening and directions are needed. PLEASE! That is helpful, mostly because I do not know what I am going to do with myself after I graduate, I do not know if I will get married or not, but I do know that God has a plan. I forget that though, so please remind me!
Thank you.
